It all started with sake bombs. Every Thursday, my best gals and I get together to eat dinner, bitch about our week, praise our accomplishments, talk about our love lives (or lack thereof) and give advice and new perspectives to every situation that comes each other’s way.
It’s kind of like our version of “Sex and the City,” except we can’t afford expensive brunches or clothing, our apartments (read: our closets) are not comparable to any in the show, and we actually have no idea what we are doing and where we are going in this game called life.
Approximately two months ago, I made a pact to myself that I was not going to let anyone else be a part of my life that wasn’t genuine. I was really tired of having acquaintances that didn’t actually care about me and only compared their lives to mine via social media. I finally realized that in a world that only socializes over happy hours and only cares about who you work for, it’s better to have quality versus quantity.
After eliminating the toxic people in my life, I can say that I am the happiest that I have been in a long time. I’m just kind of taking things in. Letting them come to me as they happen. It’s a wonderful feeling – you should try it.
It took me two years of breakups, new romances, horrible ovens and shag carpet to realize that life isn’t perfect. There are just some things that are simply out of our control. Bad things are going to happen and great things will follow, and we just have to take them in.
In a world that is challenging us to constantly want more, we need to realize that what we need, whether that be an answer or a genuine friend, is usually right in front of us.
So, back to the sake. As I sat at a table with a group of friends who didn’t know one another before moving to this city, it dawned on me that life doesn’t have to be perfect to be good. When you look around your life and realize that you a have a few quality friends who are there for you when you get a new job or when you are going through a heartbreak, you realize that life is better than good.